We take relationships for granted "UnForgiveness and Pride "

The helicopter tragedy which claimed the lives of nine beautiful souls including Kobe and has daughter Gianna Byrant left the world speechless on Sunday the 26th of January 2020. I would like to take the time to identify the seven other souls who died that day . John, Keri and Alyssa Altobelli , Sarah and Payton Chester , Christina Mauser and Pilot Ara Zobayan . May they all rest in peace.

I think when the news broke about the accident it really shook the world, we felt this one so deeply. It wasn't just that a celebrity died it was a loving father and his daughter there where families on that aircraft . So suddenly and gone far too soon I remember thinking what where these parents last words to their children , did they say "everything is going to be alright" thinking that it would or did they have the piece of mind to say "I love you" just in case. As a parent I would believe you would be praying to god to at least let your child live. This situation is so had to swallow.

Anyway I got way deeper than I wanted too on that issue, really this post is about unforgiveness and pride. I had a loved one ( a sibling ) that I stopped seeing eye to eye with, really the fall out was his fault because I didn't want to take a loan from him for obvious reasons " I knew he would tell people I owed him money" but he insisted and so said so done . (not even a two weeks self) Needless to say I stopped associating with him , I paid him back and it was a good two - three years of avoiding him. To this day the last image of him hunts me, it was december 2017 just before christmas, I remember I was in a car going up the street and he was on foot walking really fast like he was on a beat.

My first thought was to call out to him " hey Happy belated Birthday" but I thought "not me and he nah" and I just let him pass, him not seeing me and I pretending not to see him. On New Years Day 2018 five persons where shot in a drive by at a new years yard party , the person who was the target was at another event. Four were injured and one dead, my dead. That was the longest and heaviest days of my life but in truth it was my inability to forgive that kept me from him for so long , and it was my pride that kept me from having my final words with him.

I'm not telling you that everyone who has done you wrong to let them back into your life. Keep your space clean of all negativity and of people who hurt you but forgive them. Do it so that you can release yourself from the control they have over your mind, your emotions, from the power they have on your life. And trust if your harboring memories, pain and hate for someone, they got you under their control. That's just people right, but what about your loved ones their the worst because they hurt you like no enemy ever could , they commit some of the nastiest betrayals . Your avoiding get togethers and sitting at the back of the wedding "you know the row by the door so you could skip out" before your seen.

Be careful because instead of avoiding them at a wedding you could be avoiding looking at them in their coffin. Its that pride man , pride could be the end of us forgive a loved one today hug them tell what they mean to you while you still have the chance. Forgiving doesn't mean you have to forget, it means you need to learn from the incident to avoid future troubles. I'm still learning to control my pride and to forgive too cause god knows I need to work on it hard, but we can do this... together!

Stay loved , stay blessed and forgive!

Calle